Me: *sits down to write*
Me: *rereads old writing for several hours and doesn’t get any writing done*
Me:
Tag: writing
you could be sad about your otp but consider:
- one making awful breakfast for the other and the other eating it because they appreciate it that much
- one putting their ridiculous music on in the car and singing along while the other sits in the passenger seat with their head in their hands
- the two of them going down to the beach and one getting sunburned really badly so the other slathers them with aloe gel when they get home
- one getting home from work later than the other and stretching out on top of them like a big lazy cat while they sit on the couch in front of the tv
- one inexplicably bringing home an animal and refusing to drop it at the shelter so they and the other have to take care of it
- the both of them going out to a park and getting ice cream to sit with and eat on a bench
- one sending memes to the other while they’re at work so much they turn their phone off in exasperation
- one giving the other their jacket and not getting it back from the other until it stops smelling like them
All I want for Christmas is
comments on my fics, especially the old ones, so I can feel like I accomplished something worthwhile even if it was a long time ago.
the most fun thing about being a fic author is when you know what’s supposed to happen but when you go to write it you realise that, for the event to be plausible, you need to add another 2k of development and establish like six extra things before you can even get to the scene you need to write, and by ‘most fun’ I mean fuck everything someone take this fucking story away from me I’m on strike
truth
THIS!! This is why it’s so goddamn hard and time-consuming and drives me nuts and I lose sleep and spend HOURS writing the precursor to The Fun Thing to make plausibility and god forbid I want a damn sentence in return for my mental effort once the story is uploaded and fuck writing is HARD and FRUSTRATING. It can be so damn easy sometimes but writing fictional plausibility without breaking someone’s suspension of disbelief (which I suggest anyone unfamiliar with the phrase to google) while they read can make you want to burn the whole damn thing down and god I’m so so tired.
It took me 20k+ words to get to the smut in Shamefully Yours. The smut originally started 5 pages in. I HAD TO ADD PLOT AND BACKSTORY TO MAKE THE SMUT WORK *dies*
Updated Library For Kinksters
I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…
Aftercare
- Aftercare 101
- Aftercare For Dominants
- Coping With Emotional Subdrop
- Dom Drop
- How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
- Online Aftercare
- sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
- Subdrop and Aftercare
- Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
- 7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
- 12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
- 25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
- 30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
- 45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For
- 50 Rules for Daddies
- 100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
- 101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
- Alternative Names For “Daddy”
- Alternative Domme Titles
- Aspects Of Control
- Asserting Ownership – Rules
- Daddy Up!
- Defining A Daddy Dom
- Dominants Need Training Also
- Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
- Help For New Doms
- How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
- How To Be A Good Dominant
- How to Find a Submissive
- Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
- New to DDLG – A Daddy Dom
- Observations On Doms By A Submissive
- So you want to be a Dom?
- So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
- Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
- The Dom Commandments
- Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
- What Being A Dom Is About – A Submissive’s Perspective
- What does the title Daddy mean?
- What is a Daddy Dom?
- What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
- What It Means To Be A Dominant
- What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
- 6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
- 7 Common Types of Submissives
- 10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
- 10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
- 11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
- 26 Baby Girl Jobs
- 50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
- A Bottom’s Responsibility
- A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive
- A Man Who Knows You…
- A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
- Acid Test For Subs
- Ask A Million And One Questions
- Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective
- Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
- Care and feeding of Daddies
- Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
- Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
- Feminist Submissive
- Finding Your Dominant
- Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
- Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
- How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
- “How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.
- How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
- How To Find A Dom
- How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
- I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
- Novice Submissives
- Physical abuse of littles – it is never OK
- Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’
- Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
- Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
- Submissive Pride
- Submissive Traits – Intelligence
- Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
- What is a Little?
- When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.
- Why I call him Daddy
- Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
- 10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
- Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
- How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
- Long Distance Relationships – Tools To Cope
- Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
- The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
- BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers
- Body image & BDSM
- How to Get Over Feeling Sad
- Is BDSM normal?
- Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
- Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
- Meditation And Mindfulness
- On Cutting
- Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
- Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
- Tips for Recovering from Codependency
- What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
- Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
- 10 Habits of Happy Couples
- 10 Top Communication Mistakes
- 10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
- 12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
- 50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”
- BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
- BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
- Collars and Collaring – A Personal Perspective
- Communication Is Key
- Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
- Daddy Doms and their little girls
- Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
- Date Night In A Jar
- DD/lg In Public
- D/s and Domestication
- Factors That Make A Relationship
- Finding Love When You Least Expect It
- Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
- How To Be Present In Your Relationships
- How To Build A Healthy Relationship
- How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
- How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”
- How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
- Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
- Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
- Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
- Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
- Searching for a D/s partner?
- Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
- Stop Arguments Before They Start
- The Rewards of a Submissive
- Types Of Relationship Insecurity
- Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
- What Is Real Love?
- When He Doesn’t Call
- Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
- Another life ruined because of the morality police
- Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
- Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t
- Limits in BDSM
- What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
- 10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
- 10 Steps To Self Care
- 10 Ways To Be Happy
- 10 Truths To Live By
- Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
- How to be Yourself
- How To Deal With Your Enemies
- How To Ignore Haters
- How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
- Slut Shaming Explained
- Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
- What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
- 50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
- Basics of Breath Play
- D/s or Kinky Sex?
- Fetishes Explained
- How To Make A Girl Squirt
- How To Tell Your Son About Sex
- Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
- Sensual Biting
- Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
- Sex: Practical Details
- Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
- So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
- Squirting Educational Video
- Squirting Notes
Toys
Training
- 10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
- 30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
- 40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
- Age Play: A Short Guide
- BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
- DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
- Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
- Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
- Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 – Beginnings
- Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 – The Dominant Mind
- Glossary of BDSM Terms
- Guide To Blood Play
- Guide To Bruising
- Guide To Talking Dirty
- Guide To Wax Play
- How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
- How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
- How To Make A Comfort Box
- Introduction To BDSM
- Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting
- Punishments in BDSM Relationships
- Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
- Some Thoughts On Rules
- The Leash Has Two Ends – Responsibility
- The Need For Rules and Discipline
- Topping from the bottom
Resources For Writing Sketchy Topics
Medicine
- A Study In Physical Injury
- Comas
- Medical Facts And Tips For Your Writing Needs
- Broken Bones
- Burns
- Unconsciousness & Head Trauma
- Blood Loss
- Stab Wounds
- Pain & Shock
- All About Mechanical Injuries (Injuries Caused By Violence)
Writing Specific Characters
- Portraying a kleptomaniac.
- Playing a character with cancer.
- How to portray a power driven character.
- Playing the manipulative character.
- Portraying a character with borderline personality disorder.
- Playing a character with Orthorexia Nervosa.
- Writing a character who lost someone important.
- Playing the bullies.
- Portraying the drug dealer.
- Playing a rebellious character.
- How to portray a sociopath.
- How to write characters with PTSD.
- Playing characters with memory loss.
- Playing a pyromaniac.
- How to write a mute character.
- How to write a character with an OCD.
- How to play a stoner.
- Playing a character with an eating disorder.
- Portraying a character who is anti-social.
- Portraying a character who is depressed.
- How to portray someone with dyslexia.
- How to portray a character with bipolar disorder.
- Portraying a character with severe depression.
- How to play a serial killer.
- Writing insane characters.
- Playing a character under the influence of marijuana.
- Tips on writing a drug addict.
- How to write a character with HPD.
- Writing a character with Nymphomania.
- Writing a character with schizophrenia.
- Writing a character with Dissociative Identity Disorder.
- Writing a character with depression.
- Writing a character who suffers from night terrors.
- Writing a character with paranoid personality disorder.
- How to play a victim of rape.
- How to play a mentally ill/insane character.
- Writing a character who self-harms.
- Writing a character who is high on amphetamines.
- How to play the stalker.
- How to portray a character high on cocaine.
- Playing a character with ADHD.
- How to play a sexual assault victim.
- Writing a compulsive gambler.
- Playing a character who is faking a disorder.
- Playing a prisoner.
- Portraying an emotionally detached character.
- How to play a character with social anxiety.
- Portraying a character who is high.
- Portraying characters who have secrets.
- Portraying a recovering alcoholic.
- Portraying a sex addict.
- How to play someone creepy.
- Portraying sexually/emotionally abused characters.
- Playing a character under the influence of drugs.
- Playing a character who struggles with Bulimia.
Illegal Activity
- Examining Mob Mentality
- How Street Gangs Work
- Domestic Abuse
- Torture
- Assault
- Murder
- Terrorism
- Internet Fraud
- Cyberwarfare
- Computer Viruses
- Corporate Crime
- Political Corruption
- Drug Trafficking
- Human Trafficking
- Sex Trafficking
- Illegal Immigration
- Contemporary Slavery
Black Market Prices & Profits
- AK-47 prices on the black market
- Bribes
- Computer Hackers and Online Fraud
- Contract Killing
- Exotic Animals
- Fake Diplomas
- Fake ID Cards, Passports and Other Identity Documents
- Human Smuggling Fees
- Human Traffickers Prices
- Kidney and Organ Trafficking Prices
- Prostitution Prices
- Cocaine Prices
- Ecstasy Pills Prices
- Heroin Prices
- Marijuana Prices
- Meth Prices
- Earnings From Illegal Jobs
- Countries In Order Of Largest To Smallest Risk
Forensics
- arson
- Asphyxia
- Blood Analysis
- Book Review
- Cause & Manner of Death
- Chemistry/Physics
- Computers/Cell Phones/Electronics
- Cool & Odd-Mostly Odd
- Corpse Identification
- Corpse Location
- Crime and Science Radio
- crime lab
- Crime Scene
- Cults and Religions
- DNA
- Document Examination
- Fingerprints/Patterned Evidence
- Firearms Analysis
- Forensic Anthropology
- Forensic Art
- Forensic Dentistry
- Forensic History
- Forensic Psychiatry
- General Forensics
- Guest Blogger
- High Tech Forensics
- Interesting Cases
- Interesting Places
- Interviews
- Medical History
- Medical Issues
- Misc
- Multiple Murderers
- On This Day
- Poisons & Drugs
- Police Procedure
- Q&A
- serial killers
- Space Program
- Stupid Criminals
- Theft
- Time of Death
- Toxicology
- Trauma
On how many watch lists did you end up after compiling all of this information, op? 😂
“While many people think fanfiction is about inserting sex into texts (like Tolkien’s) where it doesn’t belong, Brancher sees it differently: “I was desperate to read about sex that included great friendship; I was repurposing Tolkien’s text in order to do that. It wasn’t that friendship needed to be sexualized, it was that erotica needed to be … friendship-ized.” Many fanfiction writers write about sex in conjunction with beloved texts and characters not because they think those texts are incomplete, but because they’re looking for stories where sex is profound and meaningful. This is part of what makes fan fiction different from pornography: unlike pornography, fanfic features characters we already care deeply about, and who tend to already have long-standing and complex relationships with each other. It’s a genre of sexual subjectification: the very opposite of objectification. It’s benefits with friendship.”
— Francesca Coppa, “Introduction to The Dwarf’s Tale,” The Fanfiction Reader (via francescacoppa)
Someone put it into words. I gotta sit down
YES. THANK YOU! This is why it bothers me so much when people call fic “porn.”
I’ve seen replies like – “yeah, but PWP still exists” – and I’m gonna disagree. PWP can’t exist in fanfiction!* Because the Plot and the character development are already baked in, from canon and from our shared understanding of the characters. Even a fic that’s 100 percent sex is told within existing context of the characters and the canonical story (and often within the context of other fic). Which is the point of writing a sex scene about specific characters. And not just writing about context-free bodies.
*very generally speaking and for the sake of this conversation; I’m sure there are rare exceptions
Quick tips for writing romance
- Consider what your characters like about each other
- Compliment their personalities. How can character A help with character B’s weaknesses?
- Create boundaries
- Make the characters notice each other’s quirks
- Have your characters get annoyed by some of their quirks
- Go slow on getting them together
- Build trust between characters
- Give them a life outside of their relationship
- Let your characters be vulnerable in front of each other
- Have scenes where they’re helping each other
- What makes your characters want to stay together?
- If your romance is a sub-plot, how much attention to they give the other character?
- What does character A notice about character B?
I didn’t used to understand why authors would be offended over concrit, but then I was telling someone, excitedly, about an AU of mine, and then they suddenly said, “Yeah, but X character wouldn’t act like this, they’d be more like this” following it up by tacking on a passive aggressive, “But this is YOUR AU so you do you”. That completely ruined my good mood. Idk if that was concrit or just rude, though, but I think the point is the same.
Constructive criticism (concrit) is given in a way that helps you to improve your story. I don’t see any “improvements” suggested there beyond “don’t write that person like that.” To me, that sounds more like destructive criticism – which isn’t a “thing” but is definitely a feeling. When someone criticises you in a way that just makes you feel utterly destroyed.
In order for criticism to be constructive, it has to build in some way. It has to help you grow. If all it’s doing is stamping you down, then that person isn’t helping at all. They’re just being a dick.
-Mod Pi
Destructive criticism is most deffintly a thing. Some people are purposely destructive in order to make themselves feel better or feel better about their own work. Some people are just assholes who like hurting others. Others just like tearing down authors because they have no way of being able to write like the author they are criticising so they just attack.



